Going through a divorce often makes your emotions feel like they are on a roller coaster. You may have conflicting feelings about the divorce. There might be days when you feel excited about your new life and other days when you feel afraid of the future. Divorce is not something that anyone wants to do, but sometimes it is necessary.
Instructions
1. Keep a journal. Record the emotions that you are feeling and your response to those emotions. Writing things down sometimes helps us to process what we are feeling. If you have children, be sure to keep your journal in a secure spot where they cannot find it. Many of the things you feel while going through a divorce should not be shared with them.
2. See a counselor for help working through the anger, fear, shame or guilt that often accompanies a divorce. Short-term professional counseling can be a big help during times of transition, such as divorce.
3. Join a support group. Divorce support groups exist to bring together people with similar experiences to provide insight and mutual support. Check with your local community center or church for a divorce support group near you. There are also several divorce support groups on the Internet (see Resources below).
4. Confront your fears. Often the biggest fear that people face when going through a divorce is the fear of the unknown and what comes after the divorce. Think about what you want to do with your life after the divorce and start making plans.
5. Visualize yourself as single. Especially if you have been married for many years, it can be hard to remember what life was like before you were with your partner. Pull out old pictures of when you were single, look through old yearbooks and remind yourself of your single years. Practice visualization techniques to see yourself single in the future.
6. Be patient with yourself. Understand that when we go through a divorce we often mourn the loss of our partner, much like we mourn a death. Allow yourself time to go through the pain and move towards the healing.
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